STOP PERFORMING.
START LIVING!
STOP PERFORMING. START LIVING!
Become a fully present parent, fiercely loving partner, and successful business leader
... without burning out, selling out, or losing yourself in the process.
NOBODY KNOWS...
What it's taking to hold it all together.
At some point in this journey, we got caught in the performing trap.
Because it made us the money. It got us the partner.
It pushed us through the tough situation. It made us resilient.
It even brought us success in a way the world is celebrating.
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Controlling things, making sure everything happens the way it needs to happen, has absolutely been the reason for your current level of success.
And it's also what you're drowning in.
Performing three different versions of yourself
Zero capacity left for what actually matters
Gripping tight to the life you built
Wondering if there will ever be "enough"
CAPACITY IS THE ONLY WAY OUT
Not balance. Not time management. Not optimization. CAPACITY.
The ability to respond instead of react.
To hold more without holding on.
To show up full instead of showing up depleted.
Capacity isn't time. Time is a byproduct.
When you build capacity (real capacity) everything else shifts.
Not because you're doing less. Because you're no longer performing.
You're team steps up as you begin calling forward the genius in everyone around you.
Your wife sees you (the real you), not the exhausted shell who's been performing all day.
One person. Everywhere. Fully alive.
MOST HIGH-PERFORMERS ARE GOOD AT PERFORMING
(at the highest level of course)
- Crushing it externally
- Revenue growing, team depending on you
- THE ONE with all the answers
- But dissolving into the role
- Can't remember the last time you felt challenged (vs. just busy)
- Show up for dinner (when you can)
- THE ONE who is a responsible provider
- But you're thinking about work
- Kids are fine, but the connection feels surface level
- You're there in body, but not really there
- Health is "fine" (but declining)
- Haven't had a real hobby in years
- Can't remember the last time you did something just for you
- Sleep is mediocre, caffeine = energy
- You'll "get to yourself" later
THE "ONE" PATTERN
Most successful fathers are trapped in the same loop.
You step in before anyone fails.
Fix it before they try.
Hold it so they don't have to.
Now you're exhausted, they're dependent, and nobody's growing.
Your strength creates everyone's weakness.
You solve the problem. They stop trying.
You hold more. They hold less.
You rescue. They wait.
Now you're the bottleneck.
In your business. In your marriage. In your family.
And the thing you're most afraid of?
That if you stop being THE ONE, everything will fall apart.
In a World of Chaos, Brent Perkins Provides a Safe Pair of Hands. His Vast Experiences with Corporate Executive Roles, Leadership, Family Trials and Tribulations, and Personal Reconciliation Prove to Be a Robust Set of Skills to Help Others. In Addition, Brent Has an Insatiable Appetite to Leverage His Journey to Make Others Better.
Greg Powell, Sr. Managing Director, Cerberus Capital Mgmt.
YOU CAN HAVE THE LIFE YOU WANT...
Without sacrificing everything you've built.
It's impossible to be a great father, lover, and leader when you're always out of bandwidth.
When you build capacity instead of burning through it, three things shift:
   Father → You're actually there, not just physically present while mentally still at work
   Lover → Your marriage is no longer about logistics. It’s alive, connected, nourishing (and hot!)
   Leader → Your team learns to lead themselves and stops needing you for everything
This isn't balance. Balance is a myth sold to exhausted people.
This is capacity. The ability to respond instead of react. To access choice under pressure. To be fully alive when life demands everything of you.
What that looks like is different for everyone. Some men work 30 hours. Some work 60. What changes isn't the workload, it's the weight. No more running on empty or choosing who gets what's left of you.
It's time to break the pattern.
To stop pretending that everything is "fine."Â Â
To build capacity.
To show up as the human you actually are instead of the hero you think everyone needs.
Are you ready to stop performing and start living?Â
 - Brent
P.S. Don't take my word for it (testimonials)
This is for you if...
You wake up in a cold sweat, not from anxiety but from anger. Angry that you built all this and still feel empty. Disappointed that your kids don't really know (all of) you. Terrified and sad that your wife looks at you like a problem to manage instead of a man to ravage.Â
This is NOT for you if...
You're looking for time management hacks
You want technology to do it for you
You want someone to tell you you're doing fine
You think the answer is working harder or getting more disciplined
THE REAL QUESTION...
Can you keep doing this for another 10 years?
(your body already answered)
I'm Brent Perkins
Like you, I was the guy everyone counted on.
White-knuckling my way through chasing success.
Then my marriage ended. My health crashed.
And I finally saw that my "indispensability" had created
imprisonment. For me and everyone around me.
I had to learn another way.
Now I show other fathers the path.
Brent Perkins is one of the most caring and present leaders in the marketplace today. Unlike many other thought leaders who offer little in terms of tangible value, he overdelivers in every sense of the word. Brent has helped my business but more importantly my marriage, my relationships with my kids, and even my relationship with myself.
Andrew Biggs, CEO, Better Than Rich
THE REAL REASON YOUR STUCK
Most of us want the life we can see in our head:
present parent, connected partner, successful business, at peace with ourselves.
But we're terrified of what they'll have to give up to get there.
Papercuts unpacks the invisible patterns that shape your behavior, limit your capacity, and sabotage your growth, without you realizing it.
"Love the deep dive into vulnerability. The dedication and intro to 'Papercuts' are brilliant. Can't wait to see what kind of impact this has on the world!"
Kasim Aslam , Co-Founder of DrivenMastermind.com
HOW DOES THIS WORK?
1. Call a timeout
We have a conversation. I see where the performing is costing the most and where your grip is tightest.
2. Build capacity
We work together on who you're being, not just what you're doing. Energy. Attention. Presence. The three pillars that give you margin.
3. Start living
You stop performing. Business, family, self - one person everywhere. You shift from forcing to overflowing. Leadership becomes effortless.
I'm in your corner, not as a coach but as a strategic partner,
revealing blindspots and interrupting patterns.
"For weeks, I’ve been wrestling with feelings of emotional tension, both personally and professionally. The struggles of personal growth, its impact on my relationship with my wife, and the balance with my business responsibilities have felt like a weight on my soul.Â
Hearing Brent articulate the complexities of growth and relationships has been nothing short of a revelation for me. It again reinforced the importance of vulnerability, integrity, and the slow yet necessary journey of personal growth. I am immensely grateful for the normalized perspective I’ve gained through your content, and it’s inspired me to be a better husband, father, and leader.
Thank you for the work you’re doing and for sharing wisdom that brings not just knowledge, but also emotional relief and support.
It’s not getting easier; I think I am just slowly getting better at learning how I operate, how i am growing, sharing, and digging deep for my true integrity. With deepest gratitude!"
 - Derek Nolte, Owner of Truhome Property Solutions
FAQs
Who is this for?
Fathers who run or lead successful companies who have the world's definition of success but are secretly exhausted by what it's taking to hold it all together.
What's the investment?
This is premium work. Investment starts at mid five figures. If that's not where you are yet, start with a conversation. We'll figure out if there's a fit.
How long does it take?
The pattern took decades to build. We don't unwind it in a weekend. Most engagements are 6-12 months. The shift starts immediately. The integration takes time.
What if I've tried coaching before?
This isn't coaching in the traditional sense. I don't track your KPIs or dispense advice. I interrupt patterns. I help you see what you can't see. I stay until the shift happens.
Is this therapy?
No. This is strategic partnership for high-performing fathers. We work on leadership, business, family, and self—integrated. If I think you need therapy, I'll tell you.
What's the difference between capacity and time management?
Time management is tactics. Capacity is who you're being. When you build capacity—energy, attention, presence—time becomes a byproduct. You stop spending hours performing. Everything gets faster.
NOT READY FOR A CONVERSATION JUST YET?
See where you are on the State of Self Map
Most leaders I work with are stuck in the Performing quadrant.
Acting selfless while being self-poor.
Doing everything right.
Drowning anyway.
“The impact Brent has had me in the first 6 months since we met has been huge. The shifts we've made in our business, my leadership, our clarity - it's significant leveling up. He has this incredible ability to see things that other people can’t… he sees through people, in them, besides them, 10 steps ahead of them. Brent is the blindspot exposer."
Craig Perra, Founder of The Mindful Habit®
